Beyond The Plot

We look past the sexual nature of Hetero- relationships, yet struggle to do the same for Gay Relationships. Why?

Overall thought train: I think “straight” people often think seeing gay couples in tv and in books is sexual because they see nonhetero couples as just a sexual perversion, instead of an actual couple. 

Thought Progressed:

I am going to use the term “you”, note that it’s not a finger at you specifically, but us as a society.

You often see people claiming that a “gay agenda is being pushed on our kids”. This is usually in reference to outrage because a book dared to show a gay couple, or a movie had a gay character in it. Then the “why does everything have to be sexual” crowd butts their head in.

My thoughts on this “Gay Agenda” furthered:

You are oversexualizing it. You don’t say the same when a book has a straight^3 couple in it. When a movie shows a straight couple kissing. 

So why is that? Why is a gay couple, being a couple, sexual, but a straight couple is not?

 
Homosexuality is just “sexual perversion” to you, it’s hard for you to fathom that a man love a man, the same way you love your significant other.

Sex is a natural part of a romantic relationship, and yet there is a divide when we think of straight couples, versus gay couples.

We look past the sexual nature of a heterosexual couple but struggle to do the same for homosexual couples.

How are they any different? Why would one be more sexual than the other?

Obviously, it’s your own homophobia that is driving this thought process. Even if you think yourself an ally. On some level you think this is just a “phase” and then they will see the light and pick a correct partner.

 Breaking down those walls within our mind, takes effort, it’s so engrained into our society, that it’s something we will probably be working on our entire life. (similar to the work needed to break down other bigoted views)

Added noted on the “indoctrination” mindset:

What is odd is the flip side is never noted when the discussion of queer couples on screen is brought up. If showing gay makes gay… then there would be no gay couples because most of media reflects straight couples.

It’s not a choice. So if you see a Queer couple and find it interesting… then you most likely are queer yourself.

What we really see happening, is people actually seeing themselves reflected in media and feeling safer speaking their truth out loud.

Anytime I hear this… talking point.. if we can call it that. It just makes it clear that we don’t know what indoctrination means.

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– 1.) Side note: I also want to dig into the fact that “Straight” is used to discuss Hetero Couples. Words have meaning, and this is a clear “This is the normal way of life, and all other variations are abnormal”. But we know that’s not true. Homosexuality has existed throughout our history. The rise of certain religions (really the politicizing of those religions) is what changed the viewpoint. – I’ll try not to digress to far though.

•  I keep an ongoing doc of my thought progression, and this is one of the entries i was working on. Which is why the format is… a bit odd. lol (I originally posted in Reddit, added additional text here.)